When You Feel Alone

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It is so easy to feel alone in this.  It is so easy to feel like no one understands what you’re going through.  It’s easy to feel alienated by your TTC journey.  It’s easy to feel like the odd one out when you can’t participate in the motherhood or moms-of-multiples discussions.  It’s easy to feel less-than when other moms indicate that you just can’t relate because you “only” have one child.

So on those days where you feel like no one can see you…..

Alone lonely TTC infertility

Remember that you are not alone.

Infertility affects 1 in 8 couples.  There are millions of other people in your shoes right now.  On the one hand, that is not at all encouraging and it can be quite discouraging.  On the other hand, it is somewhat encouraging that your trials are not off-the-wall or crazy.  There are people who understand.  There are online forums, Facebook communities, and church Bible studies.  Connect yourself with people who understand.  Check out this post which links to a lot of infertility bloggers!

Chances are, you probably have family or friends who would love to be there for you.  Maybe they “get it” and have been through it themselves, maybe they don’t.  But they love you.  Decide what you are comfortable sharing and then allow them to be there for you.  Don’t lie to yourself and say that nobody cares.  Trust me, I’ve been there.  That’s a great way to make a discouraging situation even more discouraging.

Above all, you are not alone because the Lord is with you.  David says in the Psalms, “You keep track of my tossings; put my tears in your bottle.  Are they not in your book?”  (Psalm 56:8)

Now, that verse is specifically talking about David’s life being threatened. But throughout Scripture we can see the great love and care that God has for His people.  He cares.  Psalm 139 talks about how God knows exactly who you are, exactly what you are doing, and exactly what you are feeling.  He is in that doctor’s office with you.  He is in the car crying with you.  He is in the bathroom seeing that negative pregnancy test with you.  You are not alone

He already knows 100% what is going on inside your body.  He sees your pain.  He cares about your pain.

Pour out your heart to Him.  It is ok to be honest.  Read the Psalms and see how honest David got with God!!!  So often we think that we have to be ultra spiritual and push our questions and fears down so that the true Christian responses can surface.  David (and Jeremiah for that matter!) show that those questions, doubts, and fears are not only completely normal, but it is completely fine and good to talk to God about them.  It is in working through those feelings that true Christianity shines through.

“Trust in him at all times, O people;
pour out your heart before him;

God is a refuge for us.  Selah.”
Psalm 62:8

You are not alone.

And I know I’m just a blogger, but I care about you too.  Whatever your story and whatever you are going through.  If you would like to talk, go ahead and shoot me an email at lifewithyou1222 (at) gmail (dot) com.

-Bonnie

31 Days ttc infertility

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3 thoughts on “When You Feel Alone

  1. I have walked this road, moved around a lot, making new friends and always facing the same new questions…how long have you been married, how many kids do you have, are you going to have more…you know 1 kid needs to have siblings (after 9 years, I stopped wondering each month). I know God has a plan and I became determined to enjoy and cherish the moments I have with him. God has called us in another direction. He has called us to foster. I know if I had the family of my dreams, I probably wouldn’t have been in ministry. Instead of the 6 I wanted, God has given us 46 to love, encourage and cheer for. So pleased to serve Him. He has answered my prayers for family, far beyond my wildest dream.

    • Thank you for sharing!! This is so beautiful. I love how you said that if you had your dream, you wouldn’t be where you are now. I feel like I have just started to realize that in recent months and it has completely changed the way I think. Praise the Lord for your wonderful mother’s heart to so many. Thank you for following His call to foster!

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