When God Changes Your Dream

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I had the privilege of writing my first guest post for a fellow blogger.  The Rosevine Cottage Girls were doing a series on how to trust and follow God when your dreams are changed or taken away.  I immediately thought of our dreams for a large family.  The path God has taken us down looks nothing like the dream I had for years.  It was (and is) a challenge to trust God with the new dreams He is bringing to us.

So here are a few thoughts from me about what to do when God changes your dream.

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December 22, 2011. I put on the most beautiful white gown and walked down the aisle to say “I do” to the man of my dreams. We were so happy that day. So insanely happy.

Since before we were married, my husband and I had thought that we would like about six children. We agreed that we would take it one child at a time, making sure that we were doing a good job parenting as unto the Lord before adding another child. But we thought the end result would probably be us having about six children.

After marriage, we moved into a 250 square foot apartment. It was tiny, but cozy and perfect for our first love nest. A baby would make it tight, but we knew we could do it for a few months until we moved out.

The months started to pass. We weren’t preventing pregnancy, so every month made me a bit more confused and discouraged as another negative pregnancy test greeted me.

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Fertility Smoothies

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If you have been in the TTC world long, you have probably heard about fertility smoothies.  For the longest time, I put it off, because it seemed so overwhelming.  And annoying to have to make a big old smoothie every day.

Well, a few months ago I joined a TTC accountability group and one of the first things the leader wanted us to do was to make a daily smoothie.  I finally took a deep breath and bit the bullet.  Lo and behold it wasn’t that complicated, and some (most!) of the smoothies tasted great!

fertility smoothies

Life happened and I stopped making them daily, but my goal is to get back to daily or at least every other day.

Fertility smoothies are a great way to infuse your body with foods and boosters that will aid fertility.  First of all, I want to talk a bit about some of the ingredients I’ve been using and how they relate to fertility.  Then I will include a few of the recipes I have tried.

  • Kale.  Kale is an amazing source of iron, calcium, vitamin C, folate, antioxidants, potassium, etc.  Kale can help alkalize your body, which is important in a culture where our diet is so acidic.
  • Spinach.  Spinach is another one that is full of antioxidants, iron, folate, zinc, and iron.
  • Celery.  This is another one that helps to alkalize your body.  Eating foods like this will help to balance your body’s pH.
  • Flaxseeds.  Rich in Omega-3!  Flaxseeds can help balance hormones as well as cleanse the colon.
  • Chia seeds.  Another great source of those necessary fatty acids.  Omega-3 can help balance hormones, increase cervical fluid, aid ovulation, and increase blood flow to the uterus.
  • Berries.  Again, lots of antioxidants.  Antioxidants are great for egg health, as well as keeping reproductive tissue healthy.

Those are just a few of the things you can include in your smoothies.  If you would like more ideas, I highly recommend Natural Fertility Info.  Here is a list of items you can include as well as a 10 Day Smoothie Challenge that they have put together.

So here are a few “recipes” that I have used.  Honestly, they aren’t even recipes.  I usually just look to see what I have in my refrigerator and freezer, and throw stuff in the blender.  Only a couple have turned out badly (don’t worry, I didn’t include those 😉 ).

2 cups kale
1/2 cup frozen dark cherries
1 small banana
1 tbsp flax seed
1 tbsp almond butter
water

2.5 large sprigs of kale
frozen dark cherries
1 medium banana
one big spoonful of almond butter
water

Almond milk
2 celery sticks
1 cup spinach
1 medium banana
1 cup frozen mixed berries
1.5 teaspoons chia seeds

There are lots of ideas on Pinterest as well for fertility smoothies.  It is a great way to get super foods and fertility-friendly foods into your day!

Enjoy!

Have you ever made a fertility smoothie?  What did you put in it?

-Bonnie

 

Fertility, Pregnancy, and Birth Summit

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I wanted to take a quick second to let you all know about this fantastic upcoming resource for those who are TTC.  The Fertility, Pregnancy, and Birth Summit will have a ton of experts speaking on all things related to trying to conceive.

I first heard of the summit from Heathir from Natural Fertility Info.  She is one of the speakers.  If you’ve never heard her speak, you need to!!  She is an amazing wealth of information.  In addition to Heathir, there are thirty (yes, thirty!!) other experts who will be sharing.

The summit will begin on February 1.  And it is FREE!!!  (From the promo video, it also sounds like there will be giveaways!  Yay!  😉 )  Sign up here.

I don’t get anything from sharing this….I just wanted to make sure I am spreading the news so that as many people as possible can gain from this awesome event.

Hope to “see” you there!

-Bonnie

31 Days of TTC Recap

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I can’t believe October is already over!  More than that, I can’t believe I completed my first 31 Days series!  (Hopefully not the last?)  It has been a unique experience that I both enjoyed and somewhat hated.  It is hard to write about such personal things, especially with the timing of this series.  But it has been so good for me to share a bit!

For my final post, I am simply going to link all the posts here for easy reference.  If you missed any posts in the series, go ahead and find them below.

Also the giveaways will be closing TONIGHT!!  So make sure you get in on those before they end!

31 Days of TTC

Monthly Emotional Cycle

When You Feel Alone

Natural Fertility and Wellness

Finding Peace When TTC – Guest Post

Praying Through Infertility and GIVEAWAY

The Comparison Trap

Nothing Like a Bit of Humor

Secondary Infertility – Guest Post

Being Intentional With Children You Already Have

Exercising and TTC

Weep With Those Who Weep

Ovulation Prediction Kit and GIVEAWAY

What Not to Say to Someone Who is TTC

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

The Ache of a Miscarriage

My Child – Guest Post

Care Package Ideas: Miscarriage

The Power of the Pen

Rejoice with Those who Rejoice

It is OK to Grieve

TTC Encouragement

Be Your Own Advocate

Apps for TTC

Natural Fertility Info

What If God Does Not Provide?

To My Precious Child Yet to Be

Resources for Those TTC

Miscarriage Resources

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Miscarriage Resources

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Here are a few resources that I have collected regarding miscarriage.  For all of you who have or are going through this, my heart is breaking with you.  😥

miscarriage resources

Books:

  1. Hannah’s Hope: Seeking God’s Heart in the Midst of Infertility, Miscarriage, and Adoption Loss (Note: I have not read this personally but it has been recommended to me!)
  2. Inheritance of Tears: Trusting the Lord of Life When Death Visits the Womb
  3. Hope for a Mom’s Heart
  4. Silent Grief: Hope for Surviving Early Miscarriage

 

Blog Posts:

  1. The Miscarriage Secret
  2. Mourning a Miscarriage
  3. I’m Not Always Ok
  4. Growing Through a Miscarriage
  5. You are Not Alone
  6. When You Lose a Baby
  7. The Thing About Grief
  8. Infinite
  9. Grief With No Apologies
  10. Picking Up the Pieces
  11. Fog Rising
  12. Still a Mother
  13. 7 Things I’ve Learned Since the Loss of My Child

 

For the Friends of Those Who Have Had a Loss:

  1. Six Things I Wish People Knew About Grieving the Loss of a Child
  2. A Letter to the Friend of a “New Normal” Grieving Mother
  3. An Open Letter to the Loved Ones of a Grieving Mother
  4. The Complete List of Do’s and Don’ts When Supporting the Bereaved (Note: I do disagree to an extent with some of the content.  While I do 100% believe that God is in control, I do agree with her that it is not at all helpful to say, “It was meant to be.”  But I disagree that you shouldn’t mention faith at all.  It was so encouraging to my heart to hear people simply tell me they were praying for me.)

Health:

  1. Healing After a Miscarriage
  2. Healing Physically after a Miscarriage
  3. Healing Emotionally after a Miscarriage
  4. I also want to add that it is so so important to take care of yourself if you are experiencing a miscarriage.  With my first miscarriage, I hardly ate and I only took one supplement one time.  I was so exhausted, dizzy, and weak.  With my second one, I ate and took my Iron and Vitamin C supplements.  Such a huge difference!  Even though the second miscarriage was somewhat harder physically, the recovery was much easier.

Music:

  1. Your Hands by JJ Heller
  2. Still by Gerrit Hofsink
  3. Gone Too Soon by Daughtry
  4. Glory Baby by Watermark
  5. Hug Him Once for Me by Erica McClure
  6. Slipped Away by Avril Lavigne
  7. Beauty Will Rise by Steven Curtis Chapman (This song was written after his 5 year old daughter passed away.)
  8. I Will Carry You (Audrey’s Song) by Selah (This was written when Todd and Angie’s sweet baby went to be with Jesus the day after she was born.)
  9. With Hope by Steven Curtis Chapman
  10. The Hurt and the Healer by MercyMe
  11. Homesick by MercyMe
  12. Even If by Kutless
  13. Beauty from Pain by Superchick
  14. He Will Not Let Go by Laura Story

Facebook Pages:
After my first miscarriage, I found some of these pages.  I sobbed as I looked through some of their beautiful images.

  1. Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss
  2. Missed Miscarriage
  3. Miscarriage, Stillborn, and Child Loss Support for Women

Check out Small Bird Studio.  While they are not exclusively for remembrance items, they do have some beautiful shirts, mugs, journals, prints, phone cases, etc.

Please add to the list in the comments!

-Bonnie

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Resources for Those who are TTC

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Here is a list of resources that I have compiled about trying to conceive.  I hope that it is encouraging to you!

TTC Resources

Encouraging Blogs and Posts:

  1. Amateur Nester
  2. A Sweet Aroma  (Note: Brandy was blessed with their miracle baby and is now pregnant.  Her entire blog is encouraging, but if this is a sensitive time for you, you can scroll through to find her infertility posts.  Well worth it!)
  3. But Why Does She Get Babies?
  4. Infertility 101: Ch. 1 The Handbook No One Gives You
  5. War of the Infertiles
  6. Coping with Infertility
  7. When You’re Waiting on God to Answer Prayer
  8. Why We Keep Quiet About Infertility
  9. Being Still When God Makes You Wait
  10. Perspective
  11. Honest Faith
  12. I Finally Get It
  13. 4 Good Ways Infertility Changes You

For the Friends of Those TTC:

  1. Five Ways to Pray for Couples Struggling to Conceive
  2. 9 Things Infertile Women Want Women with Children to Know
  3. What Your Friend Might be Thinking When you Ask if She Could be Pregnant

TTC Health:

  1. How to Increase Your Egg Health in 90 Days
  2. Stronger: How Infertility Has Taught me to Take Care of Myself
  3. Natural Guide for Menstrual Health
  4. How to Use Fertility Herbs to Boost Your Fertility Naturally
  5. 4 Tips to Enhance Fertility Through Exercise

Books:

  1. Taking Charge of Your Fertility, 20th Anniversary Edition: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health
  2. Making Babies: A Proven 3-Month Program for Maximum Fertility
  3. Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet: Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things  (Note: I haven’t read this book personally, but it has been recommended to me!)
  4. Best of 999 Reasons to Laugh at Infertility
  5. Hannah’s Hope: Seeking God’s Heart in the Midst of Infertility, Miscarriage, and Adoption Loss
  6. Moments for Couples Who Long for Children (New Life Live! Meditations) (Note: I haven’t read this book personally, but it has been recommended to me!)
  7. Dancing Upon Barren Land: Prayer, Scripture Reflections, and Hope for Infertility (Note: I haven’t read this book personally, but it has been recommended to me!)
  8. 31 Days of Prayer During Infertility

Periscope:

  1. Natural Fertility Info.  She has had some great Scopes recently that have been very helpful.
  2. You can also follow me if you would like.  I am EasyGreenClean on Pericope.  I don’t Scope regularly but my goal is to cover a variety of topics, including TTC.

Personal Testimonies:

  1. Waiting for Baby Bird – Testimonies
  2. Infertility Stories

YouTube:

Music:

  1. Your Hands by JJ Heller
  2. The Hurt and the Healer by MercyMe
  3. Even If by Kutless
  4. Beauty from Pain by Superchick
  5. Blessings by Laura Story
  6. Make Something Beautiful by Laura Story
  7. Keeper of the Stars by Laura Story
  8. Walk by Faith by Jeremy Camp
  9. Need You Now by Plumb
  10. Because God is Good by John Waller

Feel free to add any other resources in the comments!

-Bonnie

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To my Precious Child Yet to Be

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My precious baby,

Words cannot describe how much I love you already.  As of yet, you aren’t even a line on a stick, but I long for you.  I long to have you in my belly, to feel you kick, to hold you close once you are born.  I want to kiss your head, your face, your hands.

I pray for you.  I hope every day that God will give you to us.  You will be our rainbow baby, our precious miracle that comes after miscarriage.

infertility TTC rainbow baby

You have such an amazing father.  Such a wonderful big brother.  He will be so happy to meet you!!  I know he will help take good care of you.  You have two precious big siblings with Jesus as well and someday we will all be together.

Sometimes I feel like it will be forever until I can meet you.  Until I can get some sign that you will in fact one day be a reality.  But I have hope.  Hope that someday you will become two pink lines.  That you will grow in my belly and I will be nauseous and starving because of you.  That you will kick me in the ribs and as I rub away the pain I will smile knowing that my precious little one caused it.

You are our precious miracle.  I hope to meet you soon, but I am content to wait.  I know that God’s timing in giving you to us will be perfect.

I love you more than words can express.

Love,

Mommy

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