Care Package Ideas: Miscarriage

After my miscarriage, I was so overwhelmed and amazed by all the people who surrounded us. I wrote a status on Facebook, figuring a few people might see it, but I had almost 90 comments from people who were grieving with us and praying for us.

The elders from our church sent us a card in the mail. A friend whom I haven’t seen in a year sent me a card. An out-of-state friend paid for The Pilot and I to order take-out. One of my best friends sent a care package. And another friend who I haven’t seen in about three years sent a care package.

I was blown away. That is truly what it means to be the hands and feet of Christ. In a time where my heart was breaking, we were surrounded with love and with people caring for us. I have a hard time putting into words how just absolutely overwhelmed I was with gratefulness.

If you know someone who has a miscarriage, rest assured that your comments, emails, cards, and packages mean a lot. Even if it’s someone that you haven’t talked to in a while.

Care package miscarriage

A few ideas on items to include in a care package…

A card. Don’t be afraid to talk about it or to mention their baby.
Coffee
Snacks (sweet or salty…or both!)
Restaurant gift card (After our loss, I just wanted to spend time with my husband. I needed that time to be close to him.)
Redbox gift code (and popcorn!)
a journal
Adult coloring book
Fuzzy socks
Lotion or other pampering items
Note paper, note cards, or memo pad
A game that can be played with only two players so the couple can spend that time together
One friend did a themed box, so everything she sent was yellow. She attached a note that said she hoped it brought sunshine to my day! So sweet and thoughtful!
They also sent some items for our Wingman, and that meant so much to me (and also made his day!).

Here are some ideas other than a care package…

Drop off a meal or if you are not local, perhaps send a meal from Schwan’s that can be delivered to their door.
If you are local, offer to watch their other children so they can spend some time together.
Give them a hug and be willing to cry with them
Send flowers
Offer to help out around the house
Share your story. If you have experienced loss, it is ok to talk about it and cry together.
Run to the grocery store for them

There are absolutely no words to describe the kind of pain that comes with losing a little one, no matter how young. Loving hands reaching out literally means the world.

-Bonnie

6 thoughts on “Care Package Ideas: Miscarriage”

Thanks for sharing these ideas!!! A friend of mine who lost a baby last year does this for other moms going through the same thing. She recently helped me make a basket for another friend of mine who has suffered multiple miscarriages. As a mom watching a friend go through this tough time, it’s so helpful to know there IS something concrete I can do for my friends, beyond just praying and offering hugs.

13 November 2015 at 13:29 lifewithyou1222 says:

That is so kind of you to have made that basket for your friend! I am sure it meant so much to her. It is those gestures, both large and small, that can make a huge difference in a time of grief.

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