After my miscarriage, I was so overwhelmed and amazed by all the people who surrounded us. I wrote a status on Facebook, figuring a few people might see it, but I had almost 90 comments from people who were grieving with us and praying for us.
The elders from our church sent us a card in the mail. A friend whom I haven’t seen in a year sent me a card. An out-of-state friend paid for The Pilot and I to order take-out. One of my best friends sent a care package. And another friend who I haven’t seen in about three years sent a care package.
I was blown away. That is truly what it means to be the hands and feet of Christ. In a time where my heart was breaking, we were surrounded with love and with people caring for us. I have a hard time putting into words how just absolutely overwhelmed I was with gratefulness.
If you know someone who has a miscarriage, rest assured that your comments, emails, cards, and packages mean a lot. Even if it’s someone that you haven’t talked to in a while.
A few ideas on items to include in a care package…
- A card. Don’t be afraid to talk about it or to mention their baby.
- Snacks (sweet or salty…or both!)
- Restaurant gift card (After our loss, I just wanted to spend time with my husband. I needed that time to be close to him.)
- Redbox gift code (and popcorn!)
- a journal
- Adult coloring book
- Fuzzy socks
- Lotion or other pampering items
- Note paper, note cards, or memo pad
- A game that can be played with only two players so the couple can spend that time together
- One friend did a themed box, so everything she sent was yellow. She attached a note that said she hoped it brought sunshine to my day! So sweet and thoughtful!
- They also sent some items for our Wingman, and that meant so much to me (and also made his day!).
Here are some ideas other than a care package…
- Drop off a meal or if you are not local, perhaps send a meal from Schwan’s that can be delivered to their door.
- If you are local, offer to watch their other children so they can spend some time together.
- Give them a hug and be willing to cry with them
- Send flowers
- Offer to help out around the house
- Share your story. If you have experienced loss, it is ok to talk about it and cry together.
- Run to the grocery store for them
There are absolutely no words to describe the kind of pain that comes with losing a little one, no matter how young. Loving hands reaching out literally means the world.